Friday, January 5, 2018

I don't know about you...but the New Year rolled around and I was still... exactly and perfectly... the same. In the words of my sweet friend Adriane, "Unfortunately, I didn’t get the typical Happy New Year! euphoric buzz. Shockingly, when the clock struck midnight, my life was exactly the same. Same worries. Same circumstances. Same state of mind."  
Truthfully, all of the mounting pressure to DO the "New Year, New You Thing" felt like one giant weight on my shoulders. If that was you too... take a deep breath. Exhale.
I've decided that in 2018, I'm not taking up a whole list of new resolutions. I'm just going to work on being a better version of me. I lost a lot of that girl in 2017.  
I've realized that somewhere between the lost toys, lost pacifiers and lost teeth...(My kid's-- not mine, ha)...I also lost a part of myself. And that's okay too. I think that's a natural part of motherhood and life...losing yourself to pour into others. I think Jesus even said something smart like that ;)  
But at some point, you've got to get knee deep into the trenches and start the search for the better parts of what you lost while you were doling out sippy cups and school lunches.
Perhaps the hardest part is mustering up the courage to begin the search. On many, many occasions I've had the frightening thought, "What if there just isn't more? What if....all I really am is 'just mom'? What if I really wasn't created for more than leaky breasts and tired eyes when I look in the mirror?"

It IS a scary thought. What if I start the search only to find that there's not really much there after 32 years?

So yes, the beginning is the hardest part. January 1st is the scariest day of them all. Because there's a paralyzing fear of failure and I've got 365 days just staring me dead in the face waiting for me to fall flat.

I think that's got to be one of the boldest moves in Satan's bag of motherhood tricks. Convince her she's nothing more than a mother so that she won't actually believe she can change the world.  

He rubs his hands together with that sly look of pleasure and conquer.  

And sadly, I believe a lot of women fall for this trick. I know that many days... so have I.

So I suppose, this year, that is my one resolution.  

Find that girl and give Satan the bird. Because, I refuse to be the one who lost herself in the giant pile of Barbie toys and and legos and was too tired to get back up.

Run. Take pictures. Look up.  

Those are the three things I've committed to doing this year in the search to find more of myself.  

I use to be a runner. I trained for the Chicago marathon before Mackenzie was born. It's a part of me that I still hold onto from before I became a momma. Running gives me moments to think without babies wrapped around my legs begging for more cheerios. Running gives me energy and may help me lose the last 10 lbs of baby weight. I say may because there's still that problem of devouring chocolate and peanut butter off of a spoon in my pantry when the kids aren't looking. But I digress. This year, I plan to run more. I have a dream of running the Chicago marathon this fall and crushing my pre-baby marathon time. Not a resolution...just a dream that may or may not come full circle.

Take pictures. There's something that feels nearly holy about being able to capture moments that otherwise just end up lost in the timeline of our lives. The first smile. The peony that blooms and puts it's beauty on display if only for a day or two. A picture allows that beauty to stay long after the flower has wilted. I want to take more pictures and continue to improve on my photography skills.

Look up. Look up from my phone. Look up from the tv. Look up from my book in the coffee shop. Don't get me wrong-- none of these distractions are bad. But they keep me (us) from really seeing others. This year, I want to find more of myself through seeing others. I want to notice the woman at walmart struggling to carry her bags so that I can be more Jesus to her. I want to hear the words of the tired momma as she begs her little boy not to ask for "one more treat at the grocery store". So that I can pray for her and smile at her and give her what I think I would need in that situation.

These are three simple ways I plan to find more of me this year.

What about you? What are your three simple things that would help you to re-discover that girl in 2018? Don't make it hard or complicated. Write three things today on the back of a napkin, on a clean diaper if that's what's nearest to you. Put it somewhere you'll see it daily and use those three things as your encouragement this year. An encouragement to be more of the YOU that God created you to be. More of the YOU that deep down you know is somewhere in there.

Be blessed friends.
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Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween friends! I'm not usually one who posts massive amounts of photos of my family but I figured, hey... why not?  This year we attended our first costume themed Halloween Party so we decided to have a little fun.  

Mackenzie wanted to go as a veterinarian (easy enough).  Levi, who wants to do EVERYthing just like his big sister, decided to forgo his Ninja Turtle dreams and be a puppy.  To which we said, "How about an injured puppy?" (To fit with the vet theme).  He was SOLD.  

Now, you would think that a puppy costume would be pretty straightforward.  Amazon prime.  
Bada-bing Bada-boom.  Yeah.... not so much.  Amazon prime failed me this time, guys.  The day before puppy was suppose to arrive in all of it's 2 day shipping glory (let's just forget about about the small detail that I waited until Halloween week to order), I got a notice in my email letting me know that puppy was canceled.  CANCELED.

AMAZON PRIME.  I would break up with you except that I love you way too much.  On Friday, Jeremy and I drove to every Target, Walmart, Party City known to man.  And our final solution?  A kid's Star Wars Chewbaca costume from the neck down and a sad looking puppy hat.  
Oh well, you can't win them all. #momfail

Evie went as a kitty.  She didn't really have much of a choice.  I shove her chubby thighs into anything I dang please.  That's the beauty of pushing a baby out of your hoo-hah.  You get to choose their halloween costumes for the first three years.  Yes?  Her flamingo costume is already hanging in her closest for next year. #momwin

And as for our adult costumes, Jeremy went as a dog catcher and I went as a crazy cat lady.  
It was perrrrfect.  

On Sunday, we braved the 80 degree late October temps for a yearly trip to Anderson Farms.  We continued with our tradition of bribing for photos in the pumpkin patch.  We'll make the trip back again next year for another round of, "SMILE LIKE YOU MEAN IT AND YOU GET TO PICK A PUMPKIN."

This year was also the first year that I had ever heard of Trunk Or Treat.  I've clearly been hiding under a rock for the past 8 years of parenting.  Low and behold, in all of it's Pinterest glory, there are pages and pages dedicated to this idea of decorating your trunk for Halloween.  

I, in true fashion, went a bit overboard.  "Camping in The Pumpkin Patch" was the theme.  I shoved a giant tent into the back of the SUV and we passed out s'mores.  I may have been trying to make up for the failed puppy costume. 

Tonight, for Halloween, we will continue our tradition of Papa Murphy's Jack O Lantern Pizza and trick or treating for the first time in our new neighborhood.  After the kid's go to bed, we will steal all of their Halloween candy and blame it on the  Candy Fairy.  I think it's safe to say that after a week of packing in all of the traditions and festive Halloween activities, this momma needs a week long nap!  Just in time for the Thanksgiving and Christmas Season.
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Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Why Perfect Parenting Is For The Birds

Last week I got a call from my 8-year-old daughter's elementary school principal.  The conversation went something like this:

Principal- "I'm sorry to be calling you but we uhhh...had an incident today at school.  I have M here in the office with me.  She's here because a boy in her class poured paint on her boots.  Then she ...well... she... she kicked him in the private parts."


Today, as I arrived to my son's preschool for pickup (already late I must add), his teachers asked me to step into his classroom.  My heart immediately sunk.

"We need to talk.  Is something going on at home?  We're concerned about L.  He keeps falling asleep in class.  He seems very out of it.  He can't seem to follow simple instructions without his eyes glazing over.  Is everything okay?"


In all seriousness, here's what I wanted to say:

"NO.  No. No. No.  Everything is NOT okay.  My oldest is kicking classmates in the MANLY PARTS.  My middle little has become the preschool narcoleptic.  The baby doesn't sleep at all.  But, don't worry... SHE'S not falling asleep with her face in the dog food bowl.  Which, by the way is her favorite place to be...eating the dog food, that is.

Last week while nursing the baby, I pulled a piece of scrap metal out of her mouth.  Yes, metal.  I have a laundry pile so large that it could rival one of Colorado's 14ers.  We don't even bother to fold clothes anymore.  My second grader goes to school daily with two different socks on because who even has time for matching socks???

Guys.  I don't even know anymore.  I'm frazzled.  I'm exhausted.  I look it.  I feel it.  I spend much of my nights lying in bed between feedings wondering just how many hours of therapy all of my mistakes and missteps as a parent are going to take to "fix" my kids.

Today at the playground after school, as I was wracking my brain for answers to all of life's hardest "mom questions"... it dawned on me: Never before have I needed Jesus like I do as a parent.  Never have I been so humbled and so aware of my dysfunction.  I've always been a wreck.  It's just taking these daily parenting shenanigans for me to see just how much of a wreck I truly am.

So today,  I sat plopped down on the cement sidewalk of the playground while my baby attempted to shovel handfuls of leaves and wood chips into her mouth.   As I sat there, head hanging and heart low,  I realized something.  Perfect parenting is for the birds.  I found myself waving the figurative white flag of defeat.

Or was it a flag of victory?

You see, maybe coming to this place of surrender truly is a "mom win".

No amount of hustling or striving for perfectionism as a parent is ever going to "fix" my children.  

It's not a matter of IF my kids are going to need therapy.  It's just a matter of if they will choose to go. My children are going to grow up with baggage and dysfunction and probably a bit of a trauma.

You want to know why?

Because my kids are sinners.  Because my husband and I... we are sinners.  Because we come from a very long line of sinners.  We are broken big people trying to raise broken tiny people.  

And every day that I still don't get this parenting thing "right", I get to point my kids to Jesus.  I get to ask for forgiveness.  I get to plead for grace and mercy and wisdom.  All of which are things that I probably wouldn't be asking for if I didn't have tiny humans looking at me to make all of their huge life decisions.

It is exhausting and scary and many days I feel so overwhelmed that I wonder if today is the day I end up in the psych ward of our local mental hospital.

But maybe, just maybe, this is exactly the place that the Lord desires for us to be.  Maybe, it is here in this place of humble parenting, head hanging and arms raised in total surrender of our understanding and will, that God does his holiest and best heart work.
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Thursday, May 25, 2017

These Are My Confessions

I feel like I'm about to confess to a murder.  I promise you, I'm not.  That would really make this post interesting though, wouldn't it?  In "mommy world", I sure feel like this confession puts me right up there with jailbird Martha Stewart.  Only, I haven't committed tax fraud either.

For the past 7 years on this blog I have shared DIY projects, baking debacles, elaborate holiday celebrations.  I even once shared a post with feline shaped cookies where we forced a party hat on our less-than-thrilled cat and celebrated his 1st birthday.  Poor Belmont.  May he rest in peace.

Almost every one of these posts has revolved around my children in some one form or another.  I think for the most part, I do a pretty good job of enjoying my children. I do love my children. Most days I even really like them.  I find them funny and charming.  I have three of them and I chose to have them so... that says something positive, right?

But guys, here it is... here is the honest to God truth...

I hate, loathe, despise and want to murder Summer break.  Can you murder Summer break?  Is that even a thing? 

Because I totally want to do it

I am less than 24 hours into Summer Break and I have chosen to vacation at the nearest Whole Foods. I strategically chose this spot because I can be in a setting that makes me feel "semi" more adultish, they provide new and interesting toys for my child and an abundance of coffee and overpriced cake for myself.

Yes, cake for breakfast.  This is how I self soothe.  Go ahead, judge away. 

As I type this I find myself methodically pushing a stroller with one foot, sleeping baby in tow, while plastic play food is shoved at my face every 12 seconds by my now graduated pre-schooler who wants me to pretend to eat plastic bell peppers. 

This is going to sound incredibly pathetic. But this morning I cried.

Summer break has been quickly approaching. Coming like a hurricane, swirling and whirling as it looms ominously in the sky, threatening destruction.

And I cried at this thought. 

I don't know what this says about me, guys.

I cried at the thought of 16 hour days where I am forced to answer hundreds of repetitive questions like, "Do Ninja Turtles have penises?" and "Can you make Barbie Big Boobs talk?"

The endless bickering, the whiney proclamations of, "I'm borrred..." And, quite possibly the worst...

The look.  The one where their eyes get big and wide and they stare blankly at me as if every ounce of creativity has left their little bodies.

The look they give as if to ask, "How are you going to entertain us today, mom?" 

It's like the look of death

When Mackenzie started Kindergarten several years ago I discovered something.  I am a better mom when she is in school.  And now, I've discovered it yet again. I am a better mom when BOTH of my kids are in school. And I have zero ounces of shame in admitting this.  Zero.  I like my kids better when someone else is caring for them.

I get a chance to miss them.  When they come around again, I'm actually excited to see their squishy faces.  I hug them, I slobber kisses all over them and I realize -- wow, I generally like these kids again!

But Summer Break, you destroy all notions of me missing my children.  You stick me in a tiny, humid house and make me want to hide in a closet with allll the Sangria, while my tiny humans parent the heck out of themselves. 

Ohhh, that thought alone almost, AMOST makes me smile.

Today is officially Day 1.  And I feel like the first step to recovering from Summer Breakitis is to admit that I have a problem. 

So here I sit, foot officially numb from the back and forth of the stroller, confessing to you my dirty secret. 

My preschooler just shoved a pear at my eye and said, "Mom!  You wanna look inside of it?!?" 


No, Levi.  I actually do not want to look inside of the plastic pear. 

But I'm a mom.  I'm a good mom.  So that's what I'll do.  I look inside of the plastic pear and pretend to be remotely interested. 

And that's what I'm going to do the rest of the whole dang Summer.  I'm going to pretend I'm remotely interested. 

I'm going to don my mom bathing suit and suck in my postpartum jiggly belly while I chase my kids around swimming pools and splash pads.

I'm going to serve popsicles loaded with sugar and red food coloring (or is it green?) and then watch as they bounce like hooligans off the walls of my home and get their sticky hands on my furniture.

I will plaster on a giant smile.  I might even adjust my attitude sometime around mid July after the fireworks have been lit and the garden veggies have started to sprout. 

You might even see photos of me enjoying summer break with my three tiny humans, eating the popsicles with them and traipsing around Colorado together.

But please know... when August 23rd rolls around and it's time to start spending exorbitant amounts of money on school supplies and tacky backpacks...

I, my friends, will be in my happy place.
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Sunday, May 14, 2017

The World Spins Madly On

One of my favorite authors Mandy Arioto once said, "Words have heart beats". Isn't it so true that often in life, a song, a poem or a line from a book can just reach out and shake us to the core? Often times we think incredulously, "Why didn't I write that?"

Each Mother's Day and on hard days when I'm thinking of the babies we will never meet this side of heaven, I turn on the song "World Spins Madly On" by the Weepies. I take some time alone and I allow myself to grieve what has been lost.

For those of us who have healthy living babies, rainbow babies and hope babies, there are still parts of the heart that ache.

A momma never forgets.

"I let the day go by, I always say goodbye.

I watch the stars from my window sill, the whole world is moving and I'm still standing still.

I thought of you and where you'd gone and the world spins madly on."

"The world spins madly on."

This is how I felt in the days after our losses when grief was most intense. It's how I felt month after month while trying to conceive again. It's how I feel now in moments when I wonder what my babies would have looked like, when their due dates pass or when I think about the birthdays they should be celebrating.

The hardest part of grieving for me was to know that life was moving on around me while I just couldn't seem to move. Friends and family members naturally heal, they keep walking forward and many forget. And truly, that's okay.

But for the momma who has experienced the loss of a pregnancy or a child, the world really just seems to stop in it's tracks. Grief can feel so paralyzing.

So today sweet momma, if this is you, I hope you let yourself remember. I hope you'll turn on the song that gets the tears flowing and allows you to grieve.

Let your grief be holy. Let it be an act of worship to the one who created your little one. He does nothing whimsically. He has not forgotten.

The world may be spinning madly on around you, but on this day, on Mother's Day, for a moment, for an hour or for many, just let the world stand still.

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Friday, May 12, 2017

What I Really Want for Mother's Day

While standing in line at Jo-Ann Fabrics yesterday, my three year old son wandered off to a display bin near the registers. He pulled out a plastic "Ninja Turtles" ball and proudly announced, "Mom! THIS is what I want for Mother's Day!" The other moms in line all around us began to giggle.

I must add, Levi's gift proclamation was made even more humorous given that he was wearing two of my can openers. Yes, you did read that correctly -- CAN OPENERS... one in each pocket, because he determined early on in the day that they looked like the nun chucks that the Ninjas use to battle their enemies.

I leaned down to Levi and said, "Babe, I love your ball but do you know why we celebrate
Mother's Day? It's not for Levi. It's for mommas, to thank them for how hard they work." He looked at me puzzled and then said with a big grin, "Oh. Okay, well which Ninja Turtle ball would YOU like for Mother's Day?" Immediately, more laughs from our growing audience. At this moment he decided to ham it up by pulling out his nun chucks (ahem... can openers), and demonstrate his ninja moves for all to see. I just held my head in my hands and rolled my eyes. This is my son, friends. My husband and I just don't make quiet, boring children. 

Levi's gift idea got my thoughts rolling. What would I really and truly like for Mother's Day?

I love fresh flowers but they die. I like clothes but I'm currently in between sizes as I try to shed the last pounds of Evie weight. Throughout the afternoon my thoughts evolved into more practical ideas.


I want that gigantic mountain of laundry finally folded for Mother's Day. Having a constantly nursing baby makes folding laundry near impossible. I'm not kidding when I tell you that the pile has been growing for 8 weeks and we've all just waved our collective white flags as we wade through the sea of laundry each morning for clean (ish) clothes. 

Maybe I could just ask for a house cleaner to deep clean my house. Because again.... nursing baby. 

By the end of the day, as I surveyed my home  -- messy kitchen table, counters piled high with dishes, shoes falling out of the front coat closet, I had finally decided.

What I want for Mother's Day is ... more time. 

"Oh how sweet. She's being sentimental. She wants more time with her quickly growing babies". 


I want more time in the day. More hours. More energy to go with those extra hours.

Right now all the Mommas in the world are out there raising praise hands. 

When I think about the 24 hour day that we as Mommas have, the irreverent part of me wonders, "Was the Lord really thinking of mothers when he designed the 24 hour day?" 

As a mother and a woman, I am constantly faced with choices. Do I clean the kitchen? Or take a nice relaxing bath?

Nope, not enough time for that. The dishes won't clean themselves. 

Do I work on the project I've been eyeing on Pinterest? Or do I actually use the sleeping baby time to fold my mountain of laundry? I usually choose to tackle a small hill of the laundry before the baby wakes. 

Do I write the blog post, read the book, paint my nails?

Nope. Nope. And Nope.

In fact, I am currently typing this for you on my husband's iPhone during a 3 a.m. feeding because I know I won't find or make time later in the day while chasing around three kids. 

Last night my eagerness finally got the best of me and I chose to do the DIY project instead of cleaning after putting the kids to bed. While bouncing my nap boycotting baby on one knee, I painted and glued and beaded.  Then I passed out exhausted in bed with my nursing baby. 

But of course, 3 a.m. rolled around and as I shuffled through my kitchen for our nightly feeding, my eyes canvased the forgotten counters piled high with dishes and the messy table unprepared for the morning's breakfast. 

Good heavens. All I freaking want is more time.

More time to take the bath, to read the book, to do the nails, to do the DIY project. Because truly, in the season I am in now, you really don't get both. Or at least I haven't quite mastered how yet. 

I've basically resigned myself to the fact that if I choose "me time", my home looks like a burglar broke in and ransacked the place. 

If I choose to take a shower, my children get frozen waffles for breakfast.  If I choose to make the pancakes and give up the shower, then inevitably, I look like a homeless person all day. 

I can't have my pancakes and eat them too. Only I really do love pancakes. And I really do love the clean feeling of no spit up in my hair. 

I'm fairly certain that when I wake up Sunday morning, there are still going to be 24 hours in my day. I may get that bath and some wine to go with it. I may get a new can opener since mine has been stolen by my tiny human.  I may also get a ninja turtle ball -- a Michelangelo one, because he's my favorite turtle.

My Mother's Day will end with the age old mom question "how do I do alllll the things in 24 hours?" 

The truth is, I don't. And that's okay. It's about lowering expectations, making sacrifices and compromises. It's about having a servant's heart.  It's about accepting the messy and the chaos in a season of raising babes. It's realizing that as Mommas, we're all on this journey together with messy homes and frazzled schedules and big, full hearts. But we can still dare to dream that maybe, possibly, someday we will master how to do self care well while also managing our homes like pros. 

Picture credit to Chesney Louie Photography
BUT until then, I'll continue to share my thoughts, 3 a.m. blinking on the clock and a sleepy nursing babe in my arms. 

What about you sweet momma? What do YOU want for Mother's Day this year? 
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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Reindeer Pajamas & Giant Lattes

I’m sitting here, hiding.  I’m in my husband’s reindeer Christmas pajama pants and a Grande Starbucks Vanilla Latte in my hands.  I woke up to kitchen counters piled high with yesterday’s dishes and a dining room still in-swept and un-mopped.  My daughter’s school projects invading the space of our kitchen table. 

I pick up my phone as I am wading through all of the early morning mess.  A text message lights up my phone, signifying that it has come through sometime during the night from a friend.

“Perhaps Jesus will return tonight. Gooood Laaaawd.  We have walked and bounced and driven and rocked and swayed and begged.  Four hours and counting.”

I read these words and sleepily shuffled my way back through the kitchen.  My eyes, once again scanning yesterday’s chaos.

And suddenly, it all just seems to be too much. 

In that moment, tears well up in my eyes.  My throat tightens and I begin to feel an almost frantic sense coming over me.  I need air. A space to breathe and think.  I grab my keys and sneak out the front door to my car.  The six o’clock morning sun is just beginning to rise east of the Denver skyline.  I begin to drive.

In my head, I am justifying my eclectic choice of clothing.

“What if you get pulled over, Brittany?  What if, God Forbid, you have to get out of the car?  You are wearing a baggy t-shirt, no bra and your husband’s red flannel Christmas pajamas.  With reindeer on them for heaven’s sake.  What if someone sees you?"

“Who are you kidding?  No one sees you.”

And there it is.  That sneaky little lie that I’ve been working so hard to fight against. 

No one sees you. 

No one sees you as you are packing lunches and taking care to make sure all the food groups are represented.

No one sees you as you are digging through that giant pile of socks, searching for the lost prodigal.  

No one sees you as you are on your knees scrubbing filth and the smell of urine from around the toilet from your potty training little man.    

No one sees you as are rocking your feverish, inconsolable babe at 3 a.m.

No one sees you while you are on the phone making dentist appointments and negotiating medical bills. 

No one sees as you are signing kids up for summer camp.

Buying flowers for teacher appreciation week.

Scouring the internet for the best prices on vitamins.

Cutting up veggies for dinner (that no one will likely eat).

Stripping bedsheets to be washed.

Feeding the bunnies. (Yes, we have three and I still don’t know why).

Boiling the family toothbrushes.

            Ransacking the home for the lost toy that caused the morning’s preschooler meltdown…

No one sees me holed up in my car, in an empty parking lot wearing goofy pajamas and inhaling coffee like an addict.

I’m sure you could add your own “No one sees me…” to this long list.  Am I right?

This bold faced lie.  It’s been one I’ve been challenging for some time now.  If I could stand face to face with Satan, I would spit in his face.  Because this lie is one that is pervading the hearts of women everywhere and he’s so darn proud of himself. 

This lie is what paralyzes us.  It makes us feel less than. 
While our husbands are out making an income (seemingly doing something more important), we spend our days negotiating with tiny humans over whether they should wear pants into the grocery store.  Yes, I have actually had this argument with my preschooler. 
But, I digress...

The truth is, this lie against our identity didn’t just start the second the lines on the stick turned pink.  This lie that tells us we aren’t seen, heard or really known isn’t actually a lie just for mommas.  It is a lie for all of humanity.

It started as a whisper when you were a child.  And the lie continued to grow.  You began to hide your flaws and shame while learning to overcompensate through perfectionism.  Now, even as an adult, this lie crosses the sacred boundaries of marriage, families and friendships. 

I single out mommas, because I believe that often times, it is motherhood that shines the light on the lies we’ve been believing our whole lives.  At least that is what it has done for me.

It is through our children that we often realize the inconsistencies and the healing that must take place for us to return to the whole and unbroken identity that God truly desires for us to find in Him.  We look at our children and we see a wholeness and a purity that hasn’t been marred yet.    

And then we bravely begin to dream that we can believe this truth for ourselves.

What is this truth?  God sees. 
It's so simple and yet so incredibly complicated.  Because God sees.  But we don't believe it.
If you want proof, go open your Bible to Genesis 16.  You'll read of Hagar who was Abram and Sarai's slave girl.  She has been essentially forced into an affair so that Sarai can finally have a child.  She's been abused for years.  To all who know her, Hagar's life is worthless and insignificant.  So she runs away and finds herself lost and desperate in the middle of a desert.  Then, the miracle happens.  When all looks hopeless and desolate, God shows up.  He meets her in the desert at a well of water and it is here that Hagar does something unprecedented. 
It is the only place in the Bible that anyone ever gives God a name. 

She names Him, "El Roi, the God who sees me."

Hagar, a lowly, Egyptian slave girl who is pregnant and essentially homeless, has the audacity to name the God of the Universe and to claim that He sees her. 

The first time I heard this story, I sobbed uncontrollably-- one of those embarrassing ugly cries that you really and truly do wish that no one else sees.  How is it possible that as a 30-year-old, I had never been told that God sees me? 

This same God who met Hagar in her most broken state, loves me in all of my shame and brokenness. 

He loves the little girl parts of Brittany that still hide behind insecurity.  He loves momma Brittany who hides in her pantry and devours chocolate and wine on the hardest days of parenting. 

And so, sweet friends, if you are still reading this post...

I want to share with you something that has been on my heart for the past year.  It's not something I have shared with many because sometimes I can still hardly believe it myself. 
I am writing a book.  I am writing a book!
And, I'm finally feeling brave enough to share this news with you.
The book is called "Seen" and it is about all of the truths God has been revealing about my identity since becoming a momma.  
"Seen" is based off of the passage from Genesis 16 and Hagar's story but it will delve into how God desires for each of us to recognize that we  are seen in more specific areas like our childhoods, friendships, marriages, motherhood and grief. 
Friends, I am so incredibly excited to share this news with you.  It's been something I've been keeping (mostly) to myself for the past year and I believe it's finally time for me to start sharing pieces of my story. 
This book began one day last year, while sitting in an empty parking lot, wearing my husband's reindeer Christmas pajamas.  And now, I'm finally ready to share some of the healing God has been doing in my life. 
I am daring to believe that He has healing in store for you too! I hope you will join me on this journey of learning to believe that you are know, loved and truly seen.
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